We live in a world full of stereotypes and misconceptions. Some opinions were imposed on us by our ancestors, something that comes from modern society. But truly happy people know that all these opinions are unimportant.
What 10 misconceptions about living a happy person will not believe – read below.
Life is fair
Alas, it is not. Happiness is not always getting what you want. Happy people know that sometimes things in life don’t go the way they should or want to. And life is unfair.
You can do everything possible to make everything conceived work. You need to forgive yourself for making mistakes or for things that go wrong. And let go when needed.
Suffering is bad
Suffering is present in the life of any person, even a perfectly happy one. Because this is the inevitable state of humanity. Happy people know that sometimes true happiness comes after experiencing deep pain.
Suffering helps us grow and develop, and through it, we discover who we are.
I’m in control
The most dangerous delusion of many people. No matter how hard you work, no matter how hard you try to plan your whole life completely, you will not have complete control. You cannot control nature, other people’s thoughts or their actions.
To achieve happiness, you just need to accept this truth and learn to be proactive, and not react to surprises and failures in life.
People are obliged to love me the way I want.
The idea that happiness depends on how other people treat you leads to constant worry and unhappiness. You can’t please everyone, you can’t make someone love you exactly the way you want.
Happy people accept what their loved ones feel and try to show their affection. They also know how to ask for what is important and necessary for them. They don’t wait years to be loved the way they want.
Everyone hates me
You will be surprised, but 99% of the people on this planet do not care about you. And this harmful delusion very quickly leads to unhappiness.
Happy people look at the world with a healthy dose of curiosity and indifference. They are interested in other people, but not so dependent on their opinions. It takes time to build any relationship.
This is a dangerous parasitic phrase that undermines your self-confidence. You allow such thoughts to keep you from being happy and become a hostage to your beliefs.
The only way to cope and get better is to take action and try again if it doesn’t work out. Fall and get up again, and then move forward.
I have something to prove
People often look for happiness in approval. But this is impossible to achieve since external praise is needed for those who have an emptiness inside.
Happiness can only be achieved by accepting yourself. And the only approval you need is your own.
It doesn’t matter
This phrase is nothing more than an excuse. Unhappy people often repeat it to avoid conflict when they are treated badly. Or justify her lack of courage.
Many things in life matter – happiness, respect. Don’t neglect your needs to avoid being responsible for your happiness.
I would be happier if…
She was slimmer, richer, prettier, smarter, and so on. This list is different for everyone and it can be continued indefinitely.
But happy people know that all this is not necessary for happiness. The most important secret is to accept yourself completely. Work on yourself, improve yourself. But to scold yourself for shortcomings – you can not. You need to focus on your strongest points.
I’m too old
You will never be too old. Yes, in some cases you can look ridiculous or be afraid to do something. And it may be more difficult than you expect.
But choosing happiness is never too late. Happy people choose it daily, whether they understood it earlier in life or felt happiness already in adulthood.
Life is very unpredictable and the only thing you can be sure of is that we are all getting older day by day. And the best thing you can do for yourself is to make yourself a happy person, not a miserable one.