Pitru Paksha starts on September 11 and continues till September 25. Many people consider Pithru Paksha as an inauspicious period. Others treat this period with great respect. Because at this time we respectfully offer pindana and tarpana to the souls of our ancestors seeking salvation and peace. If there is no son, who can do Pindadaana..? How should women do Pindadaan..? Women follow these rules during pindana.
Pitrupaksha is starting on 11th September 2022 and on these days ancestors are commemorated by doing pinda dana and tarpana procedures. In Pitru Paksha, it is believed that the ancestors come to see their family members on earth. Honouring the ancestors, the family performs Shraddha and Tarpana rituals. By performing Shraddha in Pitru Paksha, the ancestral debt is settled. Son’s place comes first for peace to the ancestral soul and posthumous rites. Only a son is considered eligible to perform Shraddha Karma, Pinda Dana and Tarpana rituals. According to Shastras, if there is no son, do you know who has got the right to perform Shraddha..?
Example in Valmiki Ramayana
In the absence of a son, in scriptures, a daughter or a wife is considered eligible to perform Shraddha. An example of this is found in Valmiki’s Ramayana. During the exile, Lord Rama, Mother Sita and Lakshmana went to offer Shraddha to King Dasharatha. At this time Rama and Lakshmana took a long time to bring the things. Then the radio will hear that the time is over for Pindada. After this, King Dasharatha gave Sita a spiritual vision and asked her to give Pindadaan on time. Then Mother Sita took Phalgu river, Kedi flower and cow as witnesses and made a sand ball so that King Dasharatha’s soul could find peace.
Reference in Garuda Purana
In a verse of Garuda Purana, girls are considered eligible to perform Shraddha. Shloka No. 11, 12, 13, 14 state which persons are eligible to perform Shraddha Karma. According to the sloka, the daughter-in-law, the wife has the right to perform Shraddha in absence of the elder or younger son. In this, even if there is an elder daughter or an only daughter, she can perform Shraddha. If the wife is not alive, the brother, nephew, and grandson are also eligible to perform Shraddha. If it is not, only a disciple, friend, relative or family priest can perform Shraddha. That is, apart from men, female members can perform ancestral sraddha and tarpana procedures.
They are given the right to perform Shraddha
In the absence of a son, grandson or great-grandson, widows are given the right to donate pinda. A son or a daughter is always eligible to perform Pindaana, and Shraddha rituals. At the same time, it is said in the scriptures that the wife has the right to dowry when the husband has no son.
Women should do tarpana method like this
If women are performing Shraddha and Tarpana, it is said in the Shastras that they should take special care of certain things. While performing Shraddha rituals, women should wear yellow simple or white clothes as white symbolizes peace and the yellow colour symbolizes celibacy. Do not do tarpana with kush and water and do not use black sesame seeds during shraddha karma. Women have no right to do this.
Shraddha can be done on this day
If you don’t remember the day of your father’s death, according to Shastras, for children, on Panchami Tithi, elderly men and women can perform Shraddha on Navami Tithi. If for some reason you are not able to perform Shraddha on the proper date, you can perform Shraddha on the day of Pitru Amavasya, remembering the ancestors, which is the day when tarpana is offered to all Pitras. On Pitru Paksha, face south direction daily and offer black sesame seeds in water. By this, the soul of the fathers attains peace and happiness.