I have a problem with silence: as soon as I have free moments, ideas start bubbling up in me. Dietrich Bonhoeffer, in Life Together, wrote, “𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐢𝐬 𝐰𝐨𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐫𝐟𝐮𝐥 𝐩𝐨𝐰𝐞𝐫 𝐢𝐧 𝐛𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐬𝐢𝐥𝐞𝐧𝐭 – 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐩𝐨𝐰𝐞𝐫 𝐨𝐟 𝐜𝐥𝐚𝐫𝐢𝐟𝐢𝐜𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧, 𝐩𝐮𝐫𝐢𝐟𝐢𝐜𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐟𝐨𝐜𝐮𝐬 𝐨𝐧 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐢𝐬 𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐚𝐥.”
Do you also know that the best thoughts come to you in the shower? This happens because the brain connects information when it is not busy. Suddenly you discover solutions that you didn’t see before. You were just too busy to come up with good ideas. The only problem for me is that I immediately want to implement the new ideas. Then, of course, the silence is over again…
Get on the track of your soul
In addition to the good thoughts that arise in the silence, quiet moments also help to get on the track of your soul. When you find peace, you can feel what moves you. That is why some people avoid silence. They keep themselves busy because they fear that otherwise unmanageable feelings will surface.
However, this danger only threatens if you have suppressed many things for a long time. Those who regularly treat themselves to quiet times can dispose of inner garbage promptly. And seek comfort and help where necessary. If you fail to do that, a lot will back up. For many people, therefore, prayer is also a part of quiet times – speaking out to God about worries and burdens, asking for help, and listening to inspirational impulses.
relaxation through silence
And you relax in the silence. It is best for life energy if you schedule rest periods regularly. I like the concept of the Sabbath: “On the seventh day you shall rest.” Not as a compulsion, but as an opportunity.
How the rest is designed can be different. Everyone has different resting patterns. One can slow down by being active, doing sports, and working out. For another, complete passivity is the way to calm down.
A friend of mine often just sits in a chair and does nothing. Nothing at all. For hours. That’s good for her. Another friend often goes for long walks in the woods. The latest brain research has shown that exercise actively reduces emotional stress. Giving space is good.
Concentrate on something else or let your soul dangle?
Still, others need relaxed encounters with other people to relieve stress. And then there are the people who get their strength from focusing intensely on something else—be it the model train, a work of art, or a puzzle.
After a hard time, it’s good for me to just dawdle for a day. Without a fixed plan, a little rummaging here and there, tidying up, reading, sleeping, drinking tea – that fills my tanks up again.
What is beneficial for one person can be very stressful for another. That’s why there are no blanket answers as to how best to find peace. It is helpful to discover for yourself what that is. The main thing is that you have regular times in which body and soul can regenerate. “On the seventh day God rested” – that wasn’t a bad idea. And it’s good for us if we imitate him.
We can enjoy not having to do anything. The computer stays off, and the work stops. The soul dangles. The thoughts in the head and also the body find peace. It’s a time of freedom.